Here is a link to pictures from our wedding: wedding album. Also, you can download the wedding program by clicking on this link: Wedding Program. The wedding ceremony was in the morning and the wedding reception was in the afternoon. In Cambodia, the wedding ceremony is normally held at the bride’s house. Usually, only family and close friends come to the morning ceremony. Then, many guests come to the evening reception. We included a couple of the the traditional Khmer ceremonies in our wedding. The day began with the traditional fruit walk ceremony. In this ceremony, the groom walks in a procession to the bride’s house bringing gifts to her family. The other traditional ceremony we included was the gift giving ceremony. These two ceremonies were followed by the Christian ceremony (sermon on marriage, exchange of vows and rings, etc.). Most, Cambodian Christian weddings keep some of the traditional parts, take out the parts that are tied to Buddhism, and add an exchange of vows and sermon on Christian marriage. As you will see from the pictures, we changed outfits many times throughout the day… 8 times to be exact!
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Crazy Ends Times… Gone Global
Below is a picture of a billboard in California.
And now its counterpart can be found in Phnom Penh.
We live in a global age, but it would be best if some things stayed local. In a country where only a small percentage of the people are Christians, it would be nice if their first exposure to Christianity came in better way. Date setting is never a good idea in light of what Jesus tells his disciples in Matthew 25:13: “Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.” Also, it seems the man behind these signs and radio programs speaks little of salvation by grace alone by faith in Christ.
Westminster Seminary California has a series of blog posts on this false teaching and the man behind it: http://wscal.edu/blog/entry/3353
I’m Engaged!!!
I am happy to announce that I am now engaged to Sokha Seng! Last Saturday we became engaged the “American way,” and this Saturday we became engaged the “Cambodian way” with a Christian ceremony and celebration with friends and family afterward. Here is a link to the photos: engagement gallery
I met Sokha shortly after I arrived in Cambodia at a church plant in the city that our team works with. Over the past year and a half, she has become a close friend, and I am excited about being married to her in a few more months. After we are married, we are planning on returning to the village where I lived for the past three months.
Sokha wrote the following to introduce herself to everyone:
Unwanted by my mother, I was cared for by my grandmother and aunt since I was 5 months old. After my grandmother became paralyzed by a stroke and her house burned down in 1993, my aunt took me, my sick grandmother and my younger sister, Reaksmey, into the city. After the death of my grandmother in 1995, my aunt could not take care of me and my siblings any longer so she decided to send me and my sister to the Kingdom Kids Home of Hischild International Cambodia, a Christian organization. There my sister and I had a new family and came to know our sin and God’s love and received Him as our Savior. Through the orphanage, I was given the opportunity to pursue a bachelor’s degree in English at a private university in Phnom Pehn. Upon my graduation, I worked at the university for one year and then was called to serve with Hischild for the next four years. From there, I moved on to work as a language teacher and part-time translator at Phnom Penh Bible School before being employed as a primary school teacher at the Learning Lab, a Christian school run by Singaporean missionaries. I have now been working there for 3 years. I plan on leaving the school in mid April to prepare to enter into the next stage of my life. Reflecting on all of this, although I was unwanted by my parents, God adopted me by his grace into His family and has faithfully brought people into my life these 29 plus years to love me, care for me and shape me. For that I am very grateful to Him and my many aunties, uncles, brothers and sisters that He has given to me.
Only a Few Hours Left
Only a few hours remain in my three month village stay. I’ll be moving back to the city for the next three months, and preparing to move back to this same village for another year. I have continued teaching a couple English classes for village students for the past few months. I have also been able to teach Bible lessons with the students in one of the classes once a week. I have been encouraged by some of the kids that have been studying the Bible with me. One girl told me that her friend asked her, “If God created everything, then who made God?” It was nice to hear that the children are talking amongst themselves about what is being taught, and pondering the deep truths of Christianity. Please join me in praying for the students here that the Holy Spirit would convict them of their sin and the truth of the gospel.
My language ability has greatly improved during this time. One of the neighbors tutored me in reading, and I had lots of daily practice in speaking and comprehension. I have been able to do most of the Bible teaching for the kids’ class in Khmer. This morning some of my students that are in 6th grade invited me to go to class with them. I had never had the chance to observe a Khmer class, so I took them up on the offer. It was another good reminder of how far I still have to go. I was only able to understand about 60% of what was said with the background noise and speed with which the teacher spoke. I appreciate your prayers for further progress in language ability, and I am thankful for the progress God has granted me so far.
About a month ago, missionary Esther was involved in a car accident. The church plant in her village, about 7 km away from this village, is where I have been preaching a few times a month. She and her students started teaching in this village several months before I moved here and will continue teaching on Saturdays and Sundays like that have been doing. You can read more about her accident here: http://plantingcambodia.com/2011/03/car-accident/
How to Pray for Missionaries
The past issue of InVision Newsletter had an article entitled “How to Pray for Missionaries.” I thought that I would share it, since many of the prayer points really hit home with me as ways that I need to be prayed for too.
1) Pray for the health, safety, and physical well-being of missionaries and their families.
Missionaries, especially in the two-thirds world, are exposed to diseases that can be particularly devastating, such as malaria (from which more than one million people in Africa die every year), hepatitis, parasites, and other illnesses transmitted through dirty water which often must be filtered and/or boiled before it can be drunk. Sometimes the only place to purchase meat is from stores and the open market where refrigeration is not used. Vegetables, fertilized with human excrement or heavily sprayed with unhealthy chemicals, have to be carefully washed in a Clorox or iodine mixture before being eaten. Missionaries may also be exposed to outbreaks of illnesses such as typhus and meningitis, or even cholera or plague. Healthcare, especially in the case of emergency surgery or special medication needs, may be extremely inadequate. Environmental health concerns arise from living in many of the world’s major cities (e.g. Mexico City—one of the largest cities in the world with about 25,000,000 people) where air pollution is a very serious problem—resulting in health hazards ranging from elevated lead levels in the blood from the use of leaded gasoline, to breathing air laden with sewage particulates.
Some of our missionaries have been abducted and robbed, or their homes have been invaded for the purpose of robbery. In the past, it has been unusual for such break-ins to be accompanied with the threat of violence, but it is now becoming more common.
Some of our missionaries are in places very unfriendly to Christianity and to Americans in particular. Some of our missionaries have been through civil wars or armed strife in the regions where they live. Simply driving a car, in much of the world is, by our standards, much more chaotic and also more dangerous. Missionaries are sometimes exposed routinely to danger in travel or to the possibility of hitting and injuring or even killing a pedestrian. People in much of the world walk very close to or on the road and just do not seem to have an understanding of how devastating it is when a person is struck by a car. If a missionary should hit and kill a pedestrian the legal and social consequences can be very serious, to the point of being jailed, having to pay a heavy fine, or to be forced to leave the country even though it was not his fault.
Adequate, safe, affordable housing, which is appropriate and which promotes ministry, is also important. In addition, finding a reliable automobile for an affordable price and then finding parts and a competent and honest repair shop can also be a tremendous problem.
Pray for all of these kinds of needs for your missionaries, but most of all pray for them to have a bold and joyful witness when the Lord withholds these temporal “necessities.”
2) Pray for the marriages and family lives of your missionaries.
Are missionaries such super spiritual people that they are not tempted to immorality or sexual lust? We all know the answer to that question. I think that one of the reasons that the church does not pray for missionaries is that it has put them on an unrealistic spiritual pedestal where they do not deserve to be and from which they may fall. There are missionaries who have yielded to the above-mentioned sins and whose marriages have even ended in divorce.
There are cultures, in which some missionaries serve, where pornography is displayed more openly and is more readily available (e.g. on newsstands and on TV), and where behavior and dress are more provocative than in the United States—this especially will constitute a temptation to male missionaries. Pray that your missionaries will have a commitment to a regular day off, that they will take their yearly vacation time, and that husbands and wives will spend time together on a regular basis to nurture their relationship. It will be difficult to do these things because of the press of ministry responsibilities. Missionaries are also very careful about how they use their supporters’ money, and no missionary has money in great supply. As their supporters, encourage your missionaries to set aside some time and some money for a periodic date and a vacation. Pray for quality and quantity time together for husbands and wives. A wife can sometimes feel neglected on the field because her husband is so whole-heartedly dedicated to his ministry that he sometimes forgets about his wife and children and their needs. The wife, on the other hand, may be “stuck at home” with the kids, not as involved in ministry and meeting others, or learning language as rapidly as her husband. She may also, for the first time in her life, be dealing with and trying to manage a house helper.
Missionaries, especially those who are in their third or fourth term, may be dealing with the reality of aging and infirm parents in the U.S., and they may feel caught between two competing and equally important responsibilities: God’s call on their lives and God’s command to take care of their parents. Pray for the ability to see things clearly and for wisdom from the Lord in this matter of parental care. A missionary is often faced with this issue at the time of their greatest productivity.
3) Pray for MKs (missionary kids)
Missionary kids, typically known as Third Culture Kids, have many special challenges and opportunities. They have a passport country and an adopted country. Soon their adopted country is going to be very much their home, and America, their passport country, will become increasingly foreign to them. MKs have many things going for them and, for the most part, tend to be very healthy emotionally, socially, and spiritually. They are usually bright, adaptable, creative, possess strong cross-cultural skills, have had a variety of life experiences, and are fairly unworldly in a good sense. Missionary families tend to be close knit, and MKs usually relate well to adults.
Pray for MKs as they learn to make friends among (and learn to relate with) their peers when they are on home assignment in the U.S. or when they return for university or college. MKs can find it difficult to identify with their peers in the U.S. since their life experiences tend to be vastly different than the experiences of those who they meet stateside.Pray about the issues of schooling. Will it be home schooling, public school, private Christian school, international school,or boarding school? Pray for the multiple transitions an MK must make, especially for their transition back to America, which often occurs after graduation from high school and at the time of entering university or college. At this impressionable time, parents and kids will often be living in different countries, and likely separated by an ocean on different continents. The separation for both parent and child can be acute. This is a critical time for missionaries as some make the decision to return to the U.S. more or less permanently at this point-again, just at the time in their missionary career when they are becoming the most useful.
4) Pray for POMs (Parents of Missionaries)
Missionaries will experience various responses from parents when they announce that God is calling them into missionary service and that they will be moving to Timbuktu. POMs have various reactions to such announcements, raging from great joy because their children are answering the call of God, to lack of understanding and even anger over the fact that their children are wasting their lives, to disappointment over the “loss” of children and in some cases grandchildren, and many other responses. The missionaries themselves will also be dealing with emotions regarding their parents depending on the age and health of their parents and also the spiritual condition of the parents. For example as POMs become elderly and infirm and perhaps are not believers, their missionary children often feel a significant tension between their call and God’s command to care for their parents, especially if the missionary children are the only Christians in the family. I have often thought that just as some churches “adopt” MKs when they return to America to reenter American culture for college or career, it would be most helpful for churches to “adopt” POMs, to be the agents of Christ’s love and grace—especially when those POMs have reached a stage in life when they need additional care.
5) Pray that the spiritual lives of missionaries will be healthy and growing.
In a pioneer church-planting situation, missionaries may have no church available to them. In most church-planting situations if there is a church, it will be small, weak, and immature. There will be little or nothing available as a ministry to the missionaries’ children or youth. Even if there is an indigenous church, a new missionary will receive little or nothing from the church services until they become proficient in the language.
Most missionaries are not able to depend on their home church in the U.S. to provide sermon tapes and other materials, and they can experience a sense of isolation from the Christian world in the West. For example, if they do not have easy access to the Internet they may not know what the best Christian books of the last four or five years are since they have been on the field. Missionaries, more than other Christians, must take a very high level of personal responsibility for their personal spiritual growth and health.
Pray that your missionaries will have a strong personal assurance of salvation-grounded in Christ alone (through grace, faith, and the gospel). Doubt paralyzes, but assurance liberates. Only those who are secure in Christ and know it, are free to give themselves away for others. Pray also for your missionaries’ personal and family worship, that they may joyfully and profitably study the Bible and pray, as well as engage in other acts of worship such as singing hymns and Christian songs. John Piper in his book, Let the Nations Be Glad, says, “You cannot commend what you do not cherish.” This means our missionaries must have a vital, growing, and deep experience of God if they are to lead others into relationship with Him.
6) Pray for team relationships.
Missionaries are strong willed, independent, with strong ideas about what needs to be done and how it needs to be done. Just to survive on the field requires a strong person. When you put a group of people like this on the same team and ask them to work harmoniously together, it can be a very tall order indeed. If a team is international in its make-up, the problems are increased with many differences such as language and cultural values. In fact failure to get along with each other is a perennial problem with mission teams and is the number one reason for missionary recall.
Yet Christ-like team relationships are extremely important to effective mission work. We cannot separate the Great Commission from the Great Commandment. A mission team is a miniature church, a model church, which people are watching in order to see something supernatural, to see something of Christ, to confirm and validate the supernatural gospel which the team preaches. What the world needs to see in the life of the team is supernatural love in the team’s interpersonal relationships, in order to know that these are Christ’s true disciples. Pray for humility, flexibility, and teachableness for your missionaries.
Pray also that this Christ-likeness in relationship may extend to indigenous Christians and to relationships with the home office.
As you pray you may read and reflect upon John 13:34-35; Philippians 2:1-11; I John 4:7-21.7) Pray for friendships for our missionaries.
When we ask our missionaries on the field for specific prayer requests, we are often told, particularly by the women, that they would like us to pray that God would give them one good friend. Sometimes missionaries go to the field with the expectation that another member of the team is going to be a best friend, but this often does not happen. Missionaries leave family, friends, and church behind and missionary life can be lonely. This loneliness can be especially severe at holidays and other times when they normally would gather with family or friends.
8. Pray for cultural adjustment and language learning and competency.
This is an important area for prayer, especially for the new, first term missionary-but even the veteran missionary will always need to become more proficient at the language and more at home in the culture.
Most new missionaries have to deal with culture shock as they adjust to their new, strange, and perhaps even somewhat frightening adopted culture. Literally everything is new and seems out of control, for example; language, customs, different values, a different world and life view, aspects of everyday life which we take for granted in our home culture (e.g. shopping, banking, buying gasoline-or it may be called petrol), renting a house, getting the car repaired, hiring and supervising house and garden help, schooling for the children, and the list goes seemingly on without end. To a new missionary, these differences are often incomprehensible and sometimes seem simply wrong or stupid, thus producing stress in their lives, resulting in culture shock. Eventually culture shock goes away as the vast majority of missionaries successfully adjust to the culture. Yet even veteran missionaries who have been on the field for three to four terms can experience cultural fatigue. This is a weariness produced by those cultures which are so different from our own (e.g. in their view of women, as in the Muslim world), or in which business and government are so bureaucratic as to be nearly incomprehensible, resulting in great stress whenever one has to deal with such entities. This kind of cultural fatigue is never absent and missionaries must find ways to successfully deal with it and adapt to it.
Acquiring language competency is absolutely essential to effective ministry. This competency will take many years in some languages, which are difficult. Some cultures are very unforgiving concerning the slaughter of their mother tongue by foreigners, while others praise every sincere effort to speak their language, even when laced with mistakes. Missionaries have differing abilities and aptitude for language learning. Some will do well; others will struggle their entire missionary career and just get by. Language learning must go beyond the ability to converse about the weather or children and the other things of ordinary life. It must include the ability to present and discuss religious and philosophical ideas, such as God, sin, grace, substitutionary atonement, salvation, and many other biblical topics, in a way that is understandable and makes sense in the culture.
Language learning can be arduous and discouraging, so pray that the Lord will provide perseverance for this effort.
9) Pray for victory in the arena of spiritual warfare.
The gospel message is that the Lord Jesus defeated the devil and the spiritual forces of evil at the cross, and not only did He defeat them, but He publicly humiliated them as well (Colossians 2:15). In fact most of Colossians chapters one and two speaks of the superiority of Christ, His deity, and His power that is available for the Great Commission and His defeat of Satan. Pray that your missionaries may, by faith, live, and work daily in the reality of this victory of Jesus-especially when their labors for the Lord are painfully slow and seem to be producing very scant fruit.
Pray that they will claim Christ’s victory and, by faith, will believe that He possesses universal authority (Matthew 28:18), that He has been raised and exalted to the right hand of the Father far above all rule, authority, power, dominion, and title, and that the power that raised Christ is still at the disposal of the church and at work in the world for the accomplishment of God’s eternal saving purposes (Ephesians 1:19-23).
Pray that your missionaries will not make the mistake of thinking that Satan is a virtual god, nearly equal to Christ. Pray that they will see how puny Satan is in comparison to the Incomparable One, Jesus Christ.
10) Pray for opportunities for the gospel, and for boldness in taking those opportunities to share the faith.
Pray for conversions, and for opportunities to disciple new converts and to plant churches.
Pray that your missionaries would be protected from discouragement and depression, and that they would be joyfully faithful to their calling with an optimism based on the purposes and promises of God-persevering even (and especially) when progress is minimal.
Some parts of the world are extremely secular and disdain the gospel (e.g. parts of Western Europe). In France, on average, it is said that it takes 17 years to plant one church, and that the church will not be very large by American standards. In the Muslim world of the Middle East and North Africa there can be great hostility to Christians and the Church-especially toward those indigenous Christians who are bold enough to evangelize Muslims. To become a Christian in such cultures is to invite persecution and even risk one’s life. The price for following Christ may literally cost a disciple everything, including life itself. Christian workers who live in these places will find the lack of response, and even frequent defections of professing converts, to be very discouraging indeed. Some have worked for decades and have seen only a handful of people come to faith in Christ. Even in places like Africa and South America, where Christianity has been present for well over a century or longer, the church is often worldly, legalistic and shallow, or a paganized, syncretized Christianity is practiced, which little resembles true Christian faith. These are only a few examples, but they illustrate how difficult and discouraging missionary life can be, so we need to pray for encouragement for our people on the field.
11) Pray for the national church that is being established, whether by our missionaries alone or in partnership with national believers.
Pray for the training of strong, male, indigenous leadership for the church, and for the willing transfer of leadership at the appropriate time from the missionaries to the national believers (this is commonly known as indigenization).
In such a process pray that the missionaries will have a willingness to accept significant change. As paradigms for mission work change (e.g. as a missionary may move from being the frontline church planter to being a trainer/facilitator for the national worker to be the frontline church planter) missionaries have to make changes for which they do not always feel well-equipped. They may not be as happy with their new role or they may wonder what they are supposed to be doing. If the change is significant enough, they may even have questions about staying with their mission or in mission work at all. Pray that missionaries will be adaptable and willing to accept change, because the likelihood is that they will have to do so several times during their missionary careers.
12) Pray for missionaries to have a willingness to suffer.
Suffering for Christ is not only the cost of discipleship, but suffering is the means of advancing the gospel. Genuineness of faith is not seen in thanking God for the temporal blessings He gives, anyone can do that, but in joyfully thanking God when He deprives us of temporal blessings and gives only Himself. Suffering provides a most powerful opportunity for witness.
13) Pray for more laborers for the ripe harvest fields of the world.
The biblical strategy for recruitment is prayer, Matthew 9:35-38.
Ron Shaw was a pastor for 36 years before serving as pastor-at-large for Mission to the World for eight years and director of the Spiritual Life Department for six years. He continues to work with the Spiritual Life Department and visit mission fields.
Things that make you go hmm… Spiders in Where???
A few nights ago, I made my way to the outhouse behind our house. As I often do, I looked around to see if any unwanted visitors had made their way inside. This time, my looking was not in vain… A rather large spider about the size of my hand was on the wall. Its death must have upset its family, because the next morning three of its close companions awaited me inside… But hopefully their fate will help spread the word that the outhouse is not a good place for them to live…
Other posts in this series:
Things that make you go hmm… An Unwelcome Visitor
Things that make you go hmm… Geckos Dueling
New Year… New Location
It is hard to believe, but a couple weeks ago was already the second Christmas that I have celebrated in Cambodia. I took the final exam for my language right before Christmas, so I have now completed the year long Khmer for foreigners program at the Institute of Foreign Languages. I am thankful that God gave me endurance to finish the program. I am encouraged by the progress in learning Khmer that I have made in my time here so far, and I hopefully can continue to progress in my ability to communicate.
The New Year began with my next step in ministry here. I moved from Phnom Penh to a village in Kampot province. Missionary Esther and some of her students have been teaching English and Bible stories to a group of elementary and high school students at the village for the past several months on Saturdays and Sundays. The attached picture is of my new house. My roommate compared staying in the village to a never ending camping trip. With no running water and electricity, I think that it is a good comparison. But we do have a generator that we can run for a couple hours per day to recharge electronics and during the evening, we can use lights powered from a battery. It seems every time we use a computer or throw a football outside, a group of curious villagers gather to watch us.
I’ll be spending my time in several different ways: I’ll be continuing to study Khmer, preaching a few times per month at a church plant 7 km away in Missionary Esther’s village, gathering information about the village where I am living, and teaching English to Khmer grade school students.
Please pray for the following:
-adjusting to life in the village.
-that God would use my preaching at the church plant to convert and conform His people.
-that I would be able to form relationships with my neighbors and students.
-that God would give me a heart of compassion for the villagers that Ilive around that have no hope without the gospel.
Vision…
Our team has been working on revising our core values, mission statement, and vision statement. Below is the new edition:
CORE VALUES
1. We value Christ Centered Churches
• We believe in planting reformed covenantal churches
2. We value Discipleship
• We believe in training national elders and deacons to lead church planting movements.
• We believe in training nationals to support church planting movements.
3. We value Word and Deed ministry
• We believe all our word and deed ministries are distinct and inseparable.
• We believe all our word and deed ministries should be strongly connected to the local church.
VISION STATEMENT
To see vital, Christ-centered churches worshipping the true God, transforming Cambodia, and spreading God’s kingdom throughout the world.
“Vital” – We envision Spirit-led, thriving churches engaged inwardly and outwardly for the cause of Christ.
“Christ-centered” – Christ is the center of all aspects of the church including the justification, sanctification, and glorification of believers. He is the center of our message – we preach Christ and him crucified.
“Churches” – a church is defined as a body of at least ten (10)* believing non-missionary adults, gathering regularly for worship which has a pastor. These churches should hold to or work toward the reformed distinctives, including preaching the Word, administering the sacraments of baptism and the Lord’s Supper, and exercising church discipline. Our goal would be to have self-sustaining, self-governing, and self-propagating churches.
“Worshipping the true God” – As the people of God gather together we will focus our
attention toward God with all our heart, mind, and soul, simply revering, and honoring God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
“Transforming” – Our vision is that as the lives of the members of these churches are transformed by the gospel, the society will also be transformed. We believe the gospel affects all areas of our lives – our families, our work, and our roles in society.
“Spreading God’s kingdom” – We seek to establish churches that from the beginning have a heart for planting daughter churches. We desire to see our churches sending and supporting missionaries to neighboring countries and even to the end of the earth. We envision establishing churches that heed Christ’s Great Commission out of a heart of gratitude, worship and obedience.
* MTW defines a church plant as having at least 10 believing non-missionary adults with an identified church planter meeting regularly for worship with the intention of becoming a self-sufficient, self-governing, self-propagating church.
MISSION STATEMENT
Called by God to seek and equip disciples who in turn make other disciples, leading to a Christ-Centered Church Planting Movement.
Why Language Learning?
If I can get by in English, then why shouldn’t I? Is it worth the investment? Doesn’t it take too long? A recent article in MTW’s InVision Newsletter really summarized well some of these points of tension that missionaries today face in language learning, and the urgency for missionaries to still invest in leaning language well:
Imagine for a moment that the face of missions suddenly becomes dominated by Chinese believers who speak Mandarin. This is in fact not too difficult to imagine given the patterns we are currently seeing. Like the explosion of Western missionaries that took place after WWII, Chinese missionaries have spread out all over the world. Now imagine that because of their ethnocentricity they don’t learn other languages but insist that others learn Mandarin and Chinese characters if they want to be discipled. Seems ridiculous? Not really. This is in fact what has happened, and what continues to evolve as English-speaking missionaries seek to advance the kingdom through networks of English speakers worldwide. Read More>>
Operation World Prayercast: Cambodia
Operation World now has a website with a prayer guide for each nation and a short prayercast video. Here is the one for Cambodia: